Classic, Not Costumey: How To Wear Vintage Goods with Style

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Many of our long-time readers know that we’re all about classic style and high-quality stuff. We love vintage apparel and accessories that have stood the test of time, so today, we’ll discuss how to incorporate them into your outfits so that you look classic, not costumey or dated.

We believe that quite a few things, including certain aspects of fashion, are better the old-fashioned way. However, there are some things from the past that should actually just be left in the past. For example, a three-inch tall collar that is starched and stiff; that’s rather uncomfortable, and I’m glad we don’t have to wear this anymore.

If you ask our critics, they say, “Well, what are you talking about? You already look like from the 1930s” or “You dress like you’re right out of Downton Abbey.” I get the sentiment because we’re definitely more on the formal side of things. But, in men’s clothing, it’s all about the details, and in those, we’re definitely not true vintage.

Raphael and Preston walking outdoors. Both are wearing vintage-style outfits.
Raphael and Preston wearing vintage-inspired outfits.
Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Brown, Burgundy, Red, Blue Paisley with Geometric Pattern by Fort Belvedere on white background

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Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Brown, Burgundy, Red, Blue Paisley with Geometric Pattern

Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Navy, Grey, Blue Paisley & Diamond Pattern

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Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Navy, Grey, Blue Paisley & Diamond Pattern

Blue Cornflower Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Silk Fort Belvedere

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Blue Cornflower Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Silk Fort Belvedere

The 1930s had great style inspiration that carried over until today, but a pair of spats, a top hat, or a cane will just make you look distinctly vintage. That being said, if you want a classic look, chances are you don’t want to be perceived as a Robert Crowley or Downton Abbey cosplayer.

At the same time, there are vintage pieces that you might want to wear, and we’ll help you out today. In general, you’re probably better off sticking to stuff from the 1920s and after. Everything before that can make you look distinctly vintage, or it’s at least a lot harder to incorporate into a modern wardrobe.

Aaron White from Antique Menswear in an Edwardian outfit.
One of our scriptwriters, Aaron White. Check out his YouTube Channel – Antique Menswear.

Don’t get me wrong. We fully support people who want to dress up like an Edwardian or a Regency gentleman. And that’s cool if that’s you, but it’s not something that most people feel comfortable wearing.

How To Wear Vintage Goods with Style: 1. Don’t Wear Costumes

It may seem obvious to you, but sometimes people want to get a certain item or a certain look, and they drift off on amazon and end up with a very cheap costume that is supposed to be something but really isn’t.

Often, these remakes of maybe a tailcoat or a morning coat are made of cheaper fabrics that wouldn’t have existed back then. They have odd buttons and weird cuts, and it’s simply not something you ever want that looks good on you and works well for your silhouette. I know sometimes it’s tempting to wear. If you wear stuff like that, it makes you look like you’re going to a Halloween party.

Preston and Raphael dressed as Indiana Jones and Charlie Chaplin
Unless it’s a Halloween or a costume-themed party, be mindful of your outfit combination.

So, how do you know if something is a costume or not? Well, it’s a little harder to find out if you shop online. Easy giveaways are the sizing. If it’s small, medium, large, it’s not a vintage garment. Are the tags and size labels modern? It’s not a vintage garment. Is the fabric lightweight and flimsy? It’s probably not a vintage garment because they used to be much heavier. If the price is too good to be true, it probably is.

You may find some vintage items at a local thrift store. But, there’s a huge difference between a used clothing store and something that specializes in vintage clothing, and our guide to understanding the quality hallmarks of clothing can be helpful if you shop at those stores.

Raphael wearing a Dracula costume
Raphael as Dracula

Overall, I’d say pick items that look good on you and work well for your silhouette. I know sometimes it’s tempting because the fabric is really nice, but that bell-bottom pair of pants will make you look distinctly 1970s, no matter how great and unique and unworn the fabric is.

2. Be Aware of the Vintage Details

Know the different cuts and patterns in clothing and the details. While the suit, in general, is a timeless garment that has stood the test of time. Not all suit styles are timeless. Be aware of cuts and patterns that make a look dated.

Suit Lapels

You might find a three-button jacket with a very high buttoning point and, therefore, very short lapels, which just looks a bit more dated, especially in combination with a lower gorge, which is also something that’s a bit more vintage looking. Likewise, if you have a sport coat or a jacket with an extremely wide lapel, that can also look very 1970s. Or maybe, there’s a suit with a somewhat dated pattern that gives its age away. 

Dark brown suit jacket with wide lapel
Jackets with a wide lapel can look very ’70s.

Sometimes, those items can still be great for your wardrobe if they fit your style and physique. For example, higher-button jackets were popular in the 20s, and there was some resurgence in the 1970s. They can look good on taller gentlemen. Otherwise, it may look a bit stuffy.

For another example, let’s look at the lapels you can find, maybe, those skinny six-centimeter lapels that are between two-and-a-quarter and two-and-a-half inches. And likewise, a four-plus-inch-wide or 10-centimeter-plus-wide lapel will just look overpowering on a short or very slim guy. You can even make it look like a Tommy Nutter fanboy from the 1970s.

Currently, skinny lapels are more popular, and so you have a little more wiggle room there. But if you go too slim, it puts you right into the Mod Movement or Mad Men area.

A contemporary Attolini suit with a high gorge; Gary Cooper in the late 1930s wearing a suit with a low gorge
A contemporary Attolini suit with a high gorge; Gary Cooper in the late 1930s wearing a suit with a low gorge

If you look at more modern jackets, you can see the gorge; a split seam between the collar and the lapel can be quite high. With the peak lapel, sometimes, the peak actually is above the shoulder line. If you look at older garments from the 30s, it can be quite low. So, something like that can really give it away even though most people couldn’t pinpoint that the gorge height is what makes it feel vintage to them.

Suit & Jacket Patterns

There are also certain patterns like checks or madras that can look more like the 60s, for example. So, unless you really know how to confidently wear it, it will look costumey.

Pete Campbell walking across the room with drinks in both his hands. He's wearing a madras jacket, orange tie, and navy trousers.
Pete Campbell from Mad Men in a madras jacket. [Image Credit: Lionsgate Television]

Waistcoat Cuts

The same concepts are also true for waistcoats. Some of them can be cut with a flare at the bottom and five or six buttons in a single-breasted version, or double-breasted waistcoats with shawl collar pals and deep cut v’s.

Raphael wearing a black double-breasted velvet vest, pink long sleeveed shirt, and blue knit tie
Double-breasted vest. (knit tie from Fort Belvedere)

That being said, a waistcoat or vest is typically worn underneath a jacket, so it’s not too prominent, and you can typically get away with it and people not thinking of you as, “Oh! This is the vintage gentleman.”

Pants Pleats & Rise

In the 1930s and ’40s, pants for men were cut a lot roomier with pleats, and so if you wear that, it’s definitely a statement piece. Some of you feel that high-waisted trousers may feel odd or costumey when worn without a jacket, but I assure you they’re super comfortable, and once you go that route, you likely won’t go back to shorter rise or lower rise trousers.

Raphael's brown patterned suit pants with pleats.
For Raphael, high-waisted pants with pleats are really comfortable to wear.

Of course, there are other specific styles like the zoot suit, which are quite dated or, let’s say, the Nehru jacket. By the way, that’s something that I wore for my high school graduation. It was a white Nehru jacket suit, like this mile collar. It’s one of the fashion mistakes I committed, and it’s just terrible.

Raphael's graduation photo
Raphael in an all-white ensemble during his graduation

3. Combine Vintage with Modern Pieces

My third suggestion is to combine a vintage item with modern items and not with many other vintage items because that makes you look more rooted in the present day, rather than the 1930s or 40s or 50s or 60s. It often involves making the outfit less formal.

For example, I’d wear a black vintage jacket with a white shirt, but I chose a spread-collar shirt rather than a classic-collar shirt. I could have worn a very traditional silver and black silk tie. But, I chose a pink and black knit tie. It has more texture, it’s more casual, and it’s bolder. Rather than going with a classic plain white pocket square in a TV fold, I chose a printed paisley pocket square with tones of blue, yellow, and magenta that picks up the color of the tie and the blue of the waistcoat.

Raphael wearing a black vintage jacket with a white shirt, pink and black knit tie, light blue vest, light grey trousers and black monk straps.
Adding modern pieces to your outfit can make you look more rooted in the present day. (Knit tie from Fort Belvedere)

I could also wear plain black socks with a cap-toe Oxford or maybe even a button boot, which would have been distinctly vintage. But, if you switch it out for a pair of light pink socks that pick up the colors of the tie and a black double monk strap, it just looks more youthful.

I could also skip the cufflinks and go with a barrel cuff. But, personally, I like wearing cufflinks, and so I just stuck with it. Of course, I could have gone even bolder. Let’s say if I would have worn a camo or flower tie with this outfit, it would have definitely made it more modern. 

4. Know About the “Cumulative Costume Effect” of Accessories

One might think, “Cool. The best way to wear vintage is to just add lots of accessories.” However, that is not true. There’s something called the “cumulative costume effect,” which happens if you add more and more, especially vintage accessories. We already made a guide that highlighted the pitfalls of adding too many accessories to an outfit or the so-called “over-accessorizing.”

The same is true, of course, in the context of vintage clothing and vintage accessories. Too much is just too much. For example, take the image below: I’m wearing a jacket from the 1930s or 40s, a nice kind of medium brown tone with a herringbone pattern. It has shorter, wider lapels for modern tastes, and it has patch pockets, particularly a patch chest pocket, which has a shape that reminds me a lot of It Happened One Night and what Clark Gable wore, and that’s a movie from 1934.

However, I’m also wearing a big boutonnière, a pocket square, a scarf, a Panama hat, and sunglasses. It’s just over the top.

Too much is just too much.
Too much is just too much.
Madder Silk Pocket Square in Purple with Green Diamond Motif and Red Paisley- Fort Belvedere

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Madder Silk Pocket Square in Purple with Green Diamond Motif and Red Paisley- Fort Belvedere

Orange Bronze Rust Suede Men's Dress Leather Gloves with Cashmere Lining Button by Fort Belvedere

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Orange Bronze Rust Suede Men's Dress Leather Gloves with Cashmere Lining Button by Fort Belvedere

Pale Pink Mini Carnation Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Fort Belvedere

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Pale Pink Carnation Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Fort Belvedere

Meanwhile, if I pair the same suit with a light blue shirt, a purple madder silk tie with small paisleys, a simple gold tie bar, and even the same purple pocket square, the tasteful quantity and color palette of the ensemble allows everything to harmonize in an elegant way.

donegal tweed suit in light brown
When paired with tasteful accessories, this light brown herringbone suit shines. (Madder tie and pocket square from Fort Belvedere)

The same is true in reverse. I can take a standard navy suit with a white shirt and then change things up. So, rather than a regular tie, I can wear a vintage short tie. Rather than no boutonniere, maybe a small one, I can go with a really big one. Rather than the traditional white linen pocket square, I can wear a patterned one. Rather than black Oxford, you can go with button boots. Or you can add a bowler hat or a pocket watch with a watch chain.

Of course, you can also add a collar bar or a collar clip, or even a walking cane. Once you do that, your very standard modern suit will now look totally vintage. In less than five minutes, you can set back this ensemble by about a hundred years! All these accessories are perfectly easy to combine into a regular modern-day outfit, but it’s the cumulative effect of wearing them that makes it look dated.

That being said, not all accessories have the same vintage feel. A top hat or a cane is very vintagey. A collar clip or pin maybe looks somewhat vintagey. But, if you wear it with a club collar, it’s very Boardwalk Empire.

A white shirt with a club collar, worn with a collar pin and red striped tie, under a blue and green cardigan sweater.
A white shirt with a club collar, worn with a collar pin and red striped tie, under a blue and green cardigan sweater.

Vintage ties can have great patterns and colors, but if you go with a 30s tie that is super short, that’s just very, very dating. My tip: don’t wear a short tie and mid-rise trousers because it just looks like Sean Connery in Diamonds Are Forever. On the other hand, if you wear a short tie and you like the pattern, and you combine it with the vest, and you don’t see how short it is, it can work.

Raphael holding his vintage tie colllection.
Choose a tie that will not make your outfit look dated. A good example is a very short tie which is a thing in the ’70s.

If you start wearing capes or spats or white gloves with your outfits, it definitely has a more vintage flair that comes immediately by adding those items. But, if you have a White Tie ensemble, having those white gloves is what completes the look, and it’s just the icing on the cake.

5. Keep the Dress Code in Mind

Ignoring a dress code will usually make you stand out, no matter if you’re under or overdressed. Many formal vintage-inspired items like a stroller suit or a morning coat may be totally appropriate for a classy, formal wedding in England, but it may look very dated outside of that realm.

Honestly, you might even be mistaken for a Christmas caroler if you wear a top hat and a tailcoat. Or if you’re invited out with friends, maybe it’s not the best time to put on your Black Tie ensemble. Maybe leave the tuxedo at home. 

Classic Black Tie Tuxedo
Dress for the occasion and be mindful of the dress code set by the host. (Black tie accessories from Fort Belvedere)

One could argue that a gentleman in Black Tie, among other gentlemen in Black Tie, looks very charming and like he fits in. But a gentleman on his own wearing a Black Tie is going to be trying too hard to look like James Bond. Unless, of course, you love black tie and dinner jackets just like I do, and then it’s okay to wear them even though others don’t dress up and you enjoy it.

Just make sure your clothes don’t become a barrier for others to talk to you because they put you on a pedestal and think you want to be better than them.

6. Practice Inspiration, Not Duplication

Get inspired by vintage style icons, don’t try to copy them. I mean, nearly everyone can recall a scene from a movie or maybe a vintage fashion illustration that they thought, “Wow! This looks stunning. I want to look like that.”

And yes, you might be tempted to exactly take the individual items that you saw in that outfit and try to recreate them for yourself. The problem is if you can’t wear it confidently, it just makes you look like someone who’s trying to look like someone else, and it doesn’t fit your personality.

Raphael reading a classic menswear book.
Find inspiration from your style icons.

You won’t look like Cary Grant just because you’re wearing the gray flannel suit, and you won’t have the elegance of Fred Astaire just because you wear a White Tie ensemble. I also don’t look like Steve McQueen just because I wear his Persol sunglasses and his waxed jacket.

Most people won’t think of you as stylish, but just someone who watches many movies and wants to emulate their style icon while not having found their own true style.

Raphael wearing a paletot overcoat with black velvet collar, light gray fedora with black band, and burgundy scarf
Choose an accessory that would actually look good on you, not what looks good on other people.

Sure, I get it. You may watch Casablanca and think Humphrey Bogart looks really cool in that fedora. So, you go out there. You buy a fedora. You don’t think about if it really works with your face shape, and you have no idea how to wear it properly because you haven’t read the guides on the Gentleman’s Gazette.

The key to picking up on those items is to take individual parts of them and make them your own. To truly look your best, you have to feel your best, and it has to be genuine, which transitions us nicely to our next suggestion.

7. Be Confident

Be confident in the way you dress. Trust me: I’m no stranger to getting looks or attention when I enter a room or a grocery store. But, the alternative would be just to wear sweatpants and a hoodie, and that’s just unacceptable to me.

Frankly, it takes some confidence to pull up a classic look, particularly for a vintage look. And someone who does it really well is a guy named Vintagebursche, who has a YouTube channel. He’s from Germany, and he loves vintage wear, and he wears it on an ongoing basis.

The three hosts of the Gentleman's Gazette - Raphael, Kyle, and Preston look dapper and confident in their outfits.
The three hosts of the Gentleman’s Gazette – Raphael, Kyle, and Preston look dapper and confident in their outfits.
Reversible Scarf in Green and Blue Silk Wool Paisley and Stripes - Fort Belvedere

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Reversible Scarf in Green and Blue Silk Wool Paisley and Stripes – Fort Belvedere

Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Navy, Grey, Blue Paisley & Diamond Pattern

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Double Sided Wool Silk Scarf in Navy, Grey, Blue Paisley & Diamond Pattern

Peccary Gloves Cashmere Lined Waterproof in Gray

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Peccary Gloves Cashmere Lined Waterproof in Gray – Fort Belvedere

Cognac Brown Tan Men's Dress Leather Gloves with Button by Fort Belvedere

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Cognac Brown Tan Men's Dress Leather Gloves with Button by Fort Belvedere

Peccary Gloves Unlined in Grey with Button - Fort Belvedere

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Peccary Gloves Unlined in Grey with Button – Fort Belvedere

At the end of the day, even if you have a wonderful bespoke or vintage outfit, but you don’t have the confidence to wear it, the clothes wear you, and you look more like a sheep rather than a confident gentleman.

I know when you’re just starting out in your style journey, this kind of confidence may just not be there yet for you even though you strive to have it. We understand that, and we made a guide about what it’s like when your friends and family don’t understand your style, but you secretly want to go that route.

Raphael wearing a black stroller suit jacket, light blue waistcoat,vintage tie, black and white houndstooth trousers and button boots. He's also wearing a bowler hat and holding a cane.
Wear your outfit with confidence.

You may gain confidence from the fact that your vintage item is actually a quality garment that has a timeless style, which has great value, and that you participate in protecting the environment from just throwing away old stuff and wasting resources. Frankly, I believe a classic wardrobe is an inherently sustainable and green wardrobe.

Conclusion

With all that, we hope you found our tips helpful, and you can now create outfits that put you in the history books, not make it look like something that is from a history book.

Outfit Rundown

Raphael wearing a jacket that's part of a vintage stroller suit.
Raphael wearing a jacket that’s part of a vintage stroller suit.
Two-Tone Knit Tie in Black and Magenta Pink Changeant Silk - Fort Belvedere

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Two-Tone Knit Tie in Black and Magenta Pink Changeant Silk – Fort Belvedere

Charcoal, Purple and Blue Silk-Wool Pocket Square with Paisley Motifs - Fort Belvedere

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Charcoal, Purple and Blue Silk-Wool Pocket Square with Paisley Motifs – Fort Belvedere

Pink and Grey Shadow Stripe Ribbed Socks Fil d'Ecosse Cotton - Fort Belvedere

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Pink and Grey Shadow Stripe Ribbed Socks Fil d'Ecosse Cotton – Fort Belvedere

Monkey Fist Knot Cufflinks - 925 Sterling Silver Platinum Plated - Fort Belvedere

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Monkey Fist Knot Cufflinks – 925 Sterling Silver Platinum Plated – Fort Belvedere

The jacket is actually part of a vintage stroller suit, which is the equivalent of a tuxedo for formal day wear. It’s black with jetted pockets and a peak lapel. I combined it with a more modern white shirt and an extreme spread collar, a tie that is knitted in magenta and black from Fort Belvedere, which you can find in our shop here. Just like this pocket square in paisley. Rather than the traditional gray waistcoat, I went with a mottled light blue one. And instead of the typical cashmere-striped or sponge bag striped trousers, I went with black and white houndstooth trousers. I still got pleats because I have big thighs and that’s what works for me.

Skinny or slim pants just don’t. I also chose pink and gray shadow-striped socks from fort belvedere, because they’re a little more playful and pick up the colors in the pocket square and the tie. My shoes are black double-monks from Ace Marks and they’re just more youthful and sporty than a black cap-toe Oxford or a pair of balmoral or button boots.

Yes, I could have skipped the cufflinks, but I like to wear cufflinks so these are silver monkey fist knot cufflinks from Fort Belvedere which you can find in our shop here. I also added a pinky ring, which to a lot of people is something that is vintage-y or maybe mobster-like, but I personally like them and it’s part of my style and you can see my entire ring collection here. And to learn more about pinky rings and signet rings, we got you covered. Last but not least, I’m wearing a vintage Reverso watch, which is a style that’s originally from the 30s and I like the aesthetic. But, you can still get that style today and it’s not dated at all.

What’s your favorite vintage piece, and how do you like to wear it? We’d like to know how classic (and hopefully not costumey) your style is, so share it in the comments.

Reader Comments

  1. Thank you for your hints. I am planning on wearing a frock coat to a friend’s wedding (he is ok with it ;) and am just thinking about the details.

    1. Why wouldn’t the friend be okay with a frock coat? Unless it’s a super casual beach wedding where they want guests dressed in shorts and t-shirts (or similar) I find it baffling as to why the couple wouldn’t be stoked for guests to dress more formally. In the day and age of ‘anything goes’ with guests turning up in shorts and t-shirts or sweatpants to engagement or wedding celebrations, I know I’d be thrilled to see guests taking an occasion seriously and dressing up as a mark of respect.

      1. Master of Solo Travels ( love the screen name btw )

        Couldn’t agree more, very well said. Event hosts have long come to expect teen males arriving in “creative tux” ( no socks, bowtie undone etc. ) Probably lost its shock value in; Social Media, Year II.

        What *is* surprising is the number of men in 30’s, 40’s and beyond not only gracing us w/ their casual presence in cargo shorts & tees, they’re actively surveying the crowd, grading every OTHER male’s attire “to see who’s a suck up”.

        They’ll feign contempt and make sure their body language conveys exactly that. In fact it’s not uncommon to see them kick it into hyper-slouch [juvenile] response. They’re now in full fledged panic mode as they loudly launch into their latest rock climbing/white water adventure as a vehicle to explain away why they’ve no need for fancy clothes. Then pointedly insist on your sharing the last time YOU went base jumping or “Mt. Hood-to-Coast” cycling exploit? Or um, built a log cabin with your bare hands…

        1. Thanks, Matt D.

          Creative tuxedo? Reading your description, I find myself shuddering. When I was in high school, many of us made bloopers at school formals along the lines of poorly tied ties, bad proportions (wide lapels with skinny tie or vice versa) or there were those looking like they were trying to channel John Wick. Looking back on formal photos, though, I chalk it up to inexperience. At least we looked to be making an effort.

          To be completely honest, what you’ve written about men in their 30s and 40s doesn’t surprise me at all. Not that I’ve personally had that experience with chest thumping over their latest outdoor experiences to justify sloppy dressing. Not yet. Since discovering Gentleman’s Gazette, though, I’ve become more aware of a growing culture in society of sloppy dressing or an ‘anything goes’ culture. The worst one was at a local restaurant where you’d wear neat or smart casual: I was aghast to see one customer in old sweatpants, his beer gut hanging over the waistband, an equally disreputable t-shirt and thongs. I remarked on it in passing to some of my relatives only for them to brush it off saying who cares, it’s just the local RSL. Not sure what was more disappointing: relatives’ reactions or other customers’ sloppy attire.

        2. It’s bad enough when you’re in a halfway decent sit-down joint and half the guys in there are wearing ratty baseball caps while eating. It’s really sad when they’re also in their jammies. Sigh.

          When I get tired of listening to the type of exploits you mentioned, I usually just shrug and say “everybody needs a hobby”. When the reverse snobbery types go on a tear about how much better it is to dress all the way down for things, I just smile and nod.

      2. I can give an update: My friend specified – to my expressed delight – that the dresscode would be morning coat or frock coat. And top hat as well. ;-))

        I am simply a little bit careful as it is not my wedding and I do not intend to draw the attention away from the bride and groom. Especially, since I have a reputation of overdressing. So, I prefered to ask before.

        I have not decided yet whether to wear stand up or turndown collar, what kind and style of tie and whether or not gloves and hat.
        My wife is rather critical of too much dressing up, and warns me of looking too flashy or old-fashioned. (One aspect of the problem Raphael outlined above.)

        1. Hi Epimetheus,
          That’s great! Have a good time.

          When you mention it that way, I see your point. Part of being a gentleman isn’t just about dressing well (or appropriate for the event) but being able to judge where attire may detract from the event. Eg. By overshadowing the person(s) the day is about.

          Turndown collar might be better to give the outfit a more modern look. Depends on what colour waistcoast as to tie colour.

  2. Hello Staff of Gentleman’s Gazette,

    Looking to purchase a Navy Sport Coat/Jacket. My dilemma is I only like single vent not double or no-vent. Am I out of style with my stubborn ways.

    Tight lines,
    Mark A. Davis

  3. Unglaublich, Sven, but you look great in a bowler! No mean accomplishment. Sehr gut gemacht!

  4. Still looking for a 1930’s era double breasted blazer–4-1/2″ lapels, straight down conservative box style–size 48/50 regular since I’m 6-2″ tall, regular size. Quite a task to find such an item!

  5. At my last wedding almost 30 years ago, in a lovely ante-bellum garden, I was quite touched when five good friends all came in black tie, even though it was not stated on the invitation.

    1. The good old days when people made the effort to dress up (cue nostalgic sigh despite being only 33 myself :D) and put some thought into how their outfits looked on them and if they were appropriate for the event. My parents got married 40 years ago and looking at the photos, 1-2 men in open neck shirts and dress slacks, most wore suit and tie or black tie so I know what you mean. Nowadays it’s just throw on whatever and as long as it’s not stained, ripped or frayed, out the door one goes. At a family friend’s engagement, the bride’s mother was aghast to see the groom’s relatives turn up in sweatpants or cargo shorts and t-shirts. Otherwise just grab the closest thing remotely appropriate to the dress code that isn’t overly offensive. Eg. Blue/black/khaki slacks and white shirt for the engagement party. Not the worst thing one could be seen in for such an event but doesn’t demonstrate the guest has put much thought into their outfit.

  6. IMO the first six points are predicated upon the presence of
    the seventh otherwise it is a costume wearing you instead of you wearing it.

  7. Pardon me while I philosophize a tiny bit. I feel that all of us who dress well/properly/etc (I don’t really think of it as dressing “up”) have to, at some point, cross the boundary into costume, if just once. Much like wearing a tie or jacket that is much bolder than we typically do just to test the waters, we sometimes have to swing for the fence and really put it out there once or twice. These experiences tell us one of two things: 1- Yes, this one part has merit after a little adjustment, or 2- Oops, that was a little too much and it’s time to back down. As Mr. Eastwood once said, “A man’s got to know his limitations.” You have to push the boundaries every once in a (great) while, even if you end up looking a tiny bit silly and out of place. You’ll be richer for the experience, and people will mostly forget about it shortly thereafter anyway. With any luck, you get this done when you’re a younger individual, and have time for more people to forget about it! Then again, once you reach Old Man status, people seem to stop giving a crap what tie you wear, and all bets are off. Short version: learn to have a little fun sometimes.

  8. An interesting article, but one that misses the reality. In Germany, people look at you askance if you wear long trousers in summer or a suit in general (that doesn’t look like it’s from WalMart or super skinny). For the average citizen, wearing a trench coat and hat is already a disguise.
    I like to wear vintage and tend to look for old, used pieces that I then have altered by a tailor. That usually costs more than the garment itself, but the quality is usually better than anything you can buy now. And why not wear a safari jacket in summer? What’s wrong with a Norfolk jacket instead of a jumper?

    Sure, it looks clownish to walk around in a Charlie Chaplin dress or in the style of the Regency, but in Germany you can see worse in the hipster scene in Berlin (beanie, slippers and hoodies with a sweatpants suit). The funny thing is that people ask you how you walk around, and the person asking is wearing a WifeBeater shirt, cargo trousers and sandals, so what?

    Those of us who like classic menswear and ideally not only dress classically but also value personal style in other areas of life have to come to terms with being anachronisms. As the saying goes: indignation and ridicule is envy with a halo

    1. I believe the book is “I am Dandy: The Return of the Elegant Gentleman” by Nathaniel Adams, published in 2013.

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